Marilyn's cutie-pie 3-year-old daughter Sylvie was born with some minor deformities to her feet due to amniotic band syndrome (something I'd never heard of until just now):
The left foot is probably a 1/2 inch longer than the right foot, on account of that normal big toe. This means that shoes of the same size, say a size 8 toddler, fit one foot well and not the other. We've been able to keep her in normal shoes so far. (As in the same size on each foot). I tend to buy Mary Jane style shoes for her. The strap on the top helps to keep the shoe on her short foot, as the shoe is generally too big for her. A ballerina style would not work. [We've tried]. Perhaps if we bought two pairs, in two different sizes, and put the 9 on the left foot and a 8 on the short foot, we could work it out.
Marilyn hadn't really given much thought to the condition until recently, when she began to contemplate how to explain it to Sylvie once she starts to notice how her feet differ from others'.
So why now have I investigated this and blogged about it? Well, I generally don't think about Sylvie's toes. I forget about it, especially during the winter when she wears socks. I had her try on her summer sandals yesterday and I noticed the cutie pie toes once again. I got to thinking about how she will discover that her feet are somewhat different.
I'd like to know how to handle a child's (deformity?). I think she is beautiful and perfect. God made her like this, and He makes no mistakes. So, do I tell her that her feet are different (and that God made her like this, and He makes no mistakes) before someone else points it out? Or do I just tell her that she is beautiful and that God made her special and hope that one day when someone points out her toes that she'll be self-confident?
So, any of you parents who've gone through a similar situation -- any advice?